Saturday Sidebar: Bringing up self-assured young men and women

This week’s Saturday Sidebar Question comes from World Moms Blog writer Dee Harlow.  She asked our writers,

How can we raise our children to become self-assured men and women not focused on how they look?”

Check out what some of our World Moms had to say…

Young girl playing dress-up

Young girl playing dress-up

Dee Harlow of Laos writes: “Under-praise cuteness/beauty? Over praise intelligence/capability? Be the role model? Already I rarely dress up, wear no makeup, air dry my hair, use no accessories, I am always in flats, but my daughter will still be influenced through classmates, advertisements, doll play, etc. We deprive our girl of a lot of the ‘girly’ stuff for now because it (unfortunately) will come. Nail polish already has, last month, from school friends.I am concerned that just because our son is a boy that we don’t have to be sensitive to certain things. My husband always says that because he is big, strong, athletic and coordinated that he will be able to overcome a lot of social concerns through sports. But really? Do we overlook certain issues with boys because of stereotypes, too?”

EcoZiva of Brazil writes: “Many of my son’s friends are extremely picky eaters and very skinny. They are all about the same size, aged 8-9, but my son (who is average in weight, while we can literally see his friends’ ribs) is about 10 kg (22 lbs) heavier than them. Once I made a comment at home on how skinny one of them was (how I regret that!). I don’t know if it had to do with that or with other things he has heard, but now every once in a while he will comment on how he is “fat” (he is not at all!!) and how he doesn’t want to surpass so many kilos. He hasn’t gone as far as try to diet or anything like that, but he does like to weigh himself and will say a “hurray” if his weight hasn’t changed. It really bothers me.

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Saturday Sidebar: Balancing Family Life and Career Life

Saturday Sidebar: Balancing Family Life and Career Life

This week’s Saturday Sidebar Question comes from World Moms Blog Fan.  She asked our writers,

“What are your best tips for balancing family life and career life? How do you make it work where you live?”

Check out what some of our World Moms had to say…

A working woman

A working woman

Momma Expat of France writes:
“ When I was in the US, working full-time outside of the  home, my husband always pitched in to help around the house and three
days a week made dinner. This allowed me to fulfill my work requirements  and feel supported. Now that I’m working from home part-time, my husband is STILL continuing to support me by freeing me up to run in the morning while he takes my son to school. Since my sister-in-law is also here with me, she said, “Also making sure mom gets a full night of sleep! So important to face the next day! And lastly choosing to let certain things go and focusing on what’s more important. Lastly, parents should make time for one another. Both of us would pick one day a month and leave our kids in school or daycare to go out for lunch. Spending time for one another is really important!” (more…)

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World Moms Blog is an award winning website which writes from over 30 countries on the topics of motherhood, culture, human rights and social good. Over 70 international contributors share their stories from around the globe, bonded by the common thread of motherhood and wanting a better world for their children. World Moms Blog was listed by Forbes Woman as one of the "Best 100 Websites for Women 2012 & 2013" and also called a "must read" by the NY Times Motherlode in 2013. Our Senior Editor in India, Purnima Ramakrishnan, was awarded the BlogHer International Activist Award in 2013.

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CANADA: The Thought of Breastfeeding Caused Me Anxiety

CANADA: The Thought of Breastfeeding Caused Me Anxiety

Before I got pregnant, I had one fear, and it was never about childbirth: I was terrified of breastfeeding. I am not sure where it came from, or what specifically made me go into panic mode about it, but it almost looked unnatural to me. Having spent so much time in Asia, breastfeeding was just not seen or done much in public. I also don’t have many younger cousins, so naturally, I wasn’t exposed to it.

When I got pregnant, I spent months plagued with anxiety, researching and keeping my breastfeeding fears to myself. I finally blurted it all out during a big, pregnant “I-am-not-fit-to-be-a-Mother” meltdown in front of my husband. He tried not to laugh, and asked “Is this your only concern?” I had to pause, and think. Well, yes, I was set about everything else. But for some reason, breastfeeding just freaked me out! (more…)

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Travel Lady with Baby has never had two feet in one city for long, growing up as a diplomatic kid, bouncing around from one country to another became the norm. Born in Canada, but never feeling Canadian, rather a Hodge Podge of cultures and traditions, Mandarin was her first language, not English, and Spanish still comes out of her mouth when trying to speak French. Travel Lady with Baby declared to her Father that a career in the U.N was her future, but settled for a career at Foreign Affairs on an intense U.N file. After several years of non-stop travel, and having never put up a picture on the wall, she and her husband threw caution to the wind and moved to Vancouver, B.C. to work on an Olympic file. Vancouver brought, a dog, a baby boy and a life-altering event that changed everything. It was this event that made Travel Lady with Baby and her husband realize that Vancouver had run its course, so, naturally it was time to embark on another adventure. Packing everything into a small storage space and giving up their condo, they got on a plane for two months to travel with their son. For the first time, they breathed, got perspective, became present as parents and realized what they wanted. Landing back in Vancouver solidified a business plan and a move to a small town in Quebec. Now running a Sustainable Consulting and Promotions Company with her husband, re-learning French (yes, you do lose it if you don't use it), waking up to a toddler that has more energy than a soccer team, juggling clients, a household, research and marketing, and squeezing in blogging about travel has been nothing but exhilarating. It is very likely that there is another move and way more travel in the near future, but at least this time, they finally put pictures up on the walls. Check out her personal blog, Travel Lady with Baby.

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Saturday Sidebar: If you could turn back time and go back to just one day, which day would it be and why?

This week’s Saturday Sidebar Question comes from World Moms Blog writer Alison Lee.  She asked our writers,

If you could turn back time and go back to just one day, which day would it be and why?”

Check out what some of our World Moms had to say…

The day of Roxanne Piskel's son's birth

The day, Roxanne Piskel of Nevada, USA gave birth to her son.

RoxIsBrilliant of Nevada, USA writes:
“As much turmoil as there was surrounding my son’s premature birth, there is still a part of me that would like to go back and do it again. Even if everything happened exactly the same way, maybe I could hold onto the memories a little snugger and not forget so much of the beginning.”

Carol @ If By Yes of British Columbia, Canada writes:
“Definitely I do not want to go back to the day my child was born. I want to go back to a day when my nether regions weren’t bleeding, like maybe my wedding day. I had a blast.”

Alison Lee of Malaysia writes:
“I’d go back to the day my husband proposed. Though, I will change it a little to make it to a less early start, since he burst into my apartment at 5am to do that!”

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Saturday Sidebar: How and where did you meet your husband/partner? – Part 1

This week’s Saturday Sidebar Question is a spin off from Mama Kat’s writing prompts.

“How and where did you meet your husband/partner?”

Check out what some of our World Moms had to say…

A lady in France

A lady in France

ALadyInFrance of France writes:
“My husband and I both came to church in NYC the same day for the first time. He was an atheist but he thought he might meet some girls. I found him to be proud and unfriendly so I kept telling people I wasn’t interested when they suggested we should go out. Three years later we finally did go out, and this October will be 12 years.”

There is more to this story. Read it here in the French lady’s site. The pictures are priceless. You should hop on there to see them.

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World Moms Blog is an award winning website which writes from over 30 countries on the topics of motherhood, culture, human rights and social good. Over 70 international contributors share their stories from around the globe, bonded by the common thread of motherhood and wanting a better world for their children. World Moms Blog was listed by Forbes Woman as one of the "Best 100 Websites for Women 2012 & 2013" and also called a "must read" by the NY Times Motherlode in 2013. Our Senior Editor in India, Purnima Ramakrishnan, was awarded the BlogHer International Activist Award in 2013.

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Saturday Sidebar: Aside from your kids, pets, your husband, your coffee and your wine, what makes you smile?

Saturday Sidebar: Aside from your kids, pets, your husband, your coffee and your wine, what makes you smile?

This week’s Saturday Sidebar is a spin on one of the writing prompts from Mama Kat’s Pretty Much World Famous Writer’s Workshop:

“Aside from your kids, pets, your husband, your coffee and your wine, what makes you smile?”

Check out what some of our World Moms had to say…

Ana Gaby @ Stumble Abroad of Indonesia writes:
“Seeing my friends back home after a year or two and starting off just where we left off, traveling and trying new food, reading books by my favorite author and feel that I’m keeping up with his publications and being able to stop for a minute and thank God for all His blessings.”

Alison Lee of Malaysia writes:
“Cupcakes, ice cream and chocolate. Yes, I have a one track mind!”

Eva Fannon of Washington State, USA writes:
“Since I’ve been living in Seattle, I have a new found appreciation for blue skies. A sunny day with a clear blue sky always makes me smile. (And when it’s sunny, I do believe we have some of the bluest skies I have ever seen!)”

Jennifer Clark Johns of Virginia, USA writes:
“Hitting the gym and having an amazing workout, hanging with friends (which I don’t get to do often enough!), being alone with a great book, spending time with my family, a glass of wine by the campfire with my Hubby, seeing that the laundry is done (again, a rarity!), my favorite tunes on the radio. And for the first time in I don’t know how long, I took a bubble bath. Yep, definitely smile-worthy! :-)”

Karyn Van Der Zwet of New Zealand writes:
“Friends, sunshine and open spaces”

Kirsten Doyle of Ontario, Canada writes:
“Running! I get a real kick out of that endorphin high!”

Lady E of Indonesia writes:
“Yoga, dance, good friends, travel, things I read, people doing good in the world, people being silly in the world. I try to smile a lot!”

Mamma Simona of South Africa writes:
“My FaceBook friends who post such witty things, good memories and good comedies like Big Bang Theory.”

Meredith of Nigeria writes:
“Curling up on the couch under my favorite blanket with a great book and a glass of wine, going out with some of my great friends and being able to be myself around them:)”

Tara B. of Washington State, USA writes:
“Looking back through old photographs of family and friends.”

Purnima of India writes:
“Ice creams, restaurants, art galleries, book shops, looking at babies smiling, my bedroom with the complete bed all to myself with the AC switched ON and nobody at home, of course with a great book.”

Truly Rich Mom of Philippines writes:
“Feeling God’s affirmation and assurance, hearing a favorite worship song, reading funny quotes, hanging out with friends, traveling, good photos, articles that are inspiring :)”

Travel Lady with Baby of Quebec, Canada writes:
“Music on and a dance party, a good run, an uninterrupted bath, travel, hiking, a freshly made bed, a good book, good food, and good company, and finding fabulous shoes on sale!”

What about you… what makes you smile?  

And do you have a question you would like to pose to our WMB writers?  If so, email us at wmbsidebareditor@gmail.com to see what they have to say.

Don’t forget to visit us tomorrow to check out the travel itinerary for next week posted by Kirsten Doyle!

– World Moms Blog

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World Moms Blog is an award winning website which writes from over 30 countries on the topics of motherhood, culture, human rights and social good. Over 70 international contributors share their stories from around the globe, bonded by the common thread of motherhood and wanting a better world for their children. World Moms Blog was listed by Forbes Woman as one of the "Best 100 Websites for Women 2012 & 2013" and also called a "must read" by the NY Times Motherlode in 2013. Our Senior Editor in India, Purnima Ramakrishnan, was awarded the BlogHer International Activist Award in 2013.

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