Dear Ana Gaby,
Let me cut to the chase, you are in the verge of turning 30 years old, you live in South East Asia, you are married (yes, you who said that you wouldn’t even date until you were 30), you are a mother of two. Thirty, it is not as bad as it sounds, trust me. You might be wondering what ever happened to your ambitions of becoming a human rights lawyer and working at an international organization. As you may have noticed by now things did not turn out the way you expected. Your plans to travel the world, finish at least one Masters degree and not even consider getting married until you had moved into your own place did not get fulfilled.
Don’t worry. You get to study abroad, to live on your own and work in those places you always dreamed of working at. You don’t spend as much time working there as you had hoped for but you get a taste of the international organization realm and realize that you picked the right major. You meet people from all over the world and form friendships that last despite time and distance.
Along the way you meet a man who changes your life completely. Your priorities, perspective and your dreams shift from solo mode to “I wouldn’t do this without my partner in crime” mode and you find that it’s ok to let yourself literally fall in love.
So many things can happen in ten years; so many things can happen in one year. You can go from having no care in the world to being responsible for the life of a baby who depends on you for his every basic need. Life takes on a whole new meaning.
You haven’t only traveled the world, but lived in it. In the past 5 years you have visited dozens of countries and called 3 of them your home. You have been lucky enough to travel accompanied by your best friend, your husband, and have had the opportunity to experience so many different cultures and build a community over and over again in every place you are.
You quit your graduate program to get married but graduated into a new degree that is as challenging and fulfilling as many academic subjects: motherhood. This degree offers a holistic approach to life and includes expertise in a broad range of areas including boo-boo kissing, potty training, disciplining with love and learning everyday that it is possible to fall in love over and over again with your children.
Eventually you start working again, you really love your job, but you love your children even more. You find satisfaction in new things and your sons’ kisses and I “wov” yous mean so much more than anything else.
You don’t get to impact the world the way you thought you would but you impact the whole world of two little boys in more ways than you can imagine.
Your 10 year plan turned into a lifetime plan and this plan is full of adventures and misadventures but ends in a place where God and love and family come first. Your dreams no longer have you as a main character, but on a daily basis you pray and dream about a lifetime of opportunities for Evan and Joshua, your two boys.
So you see, things didn’t turn out as you expected. They turned out so much better.
Has your life turned out as you expected? How is it any different than you predicted? What would you say to 20-year-old or 30-year-old you?
This is an original post for World Moms Blog by Ana Gaby from Stumble Abroad.
Photo credit to Becs Viveash Photography