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September 29, 2016

EGYPT: Choosing our children’s career path

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One of the most challenging decisions faced by families in my country is choosing a career path and a college for their child. The journey starts during the second year of high school, when students choose between a scientific or literary curriculum. Later, in their final year, pupils who chose the scientific section must choose between mathematics-focused or biology-focused studies. Both children and parents struggle for support during this journey – and none is given.  Most importantly, children’s strengths are rarely assessed or taken into account when considering the different choices. But do we as parents have the right to choose our children’s career path?

Many factors and beliefs affect this choice. Some career paths are more prestigious than others. Some colleges are suitable for males but not females, and vice versa. Graduates of some colleges get hired immediately after graduation while others are less likely to find jobs quickly. Some families believe that children must follow their parents’ career path of their parents, or realize their parents’ own dreams. Most importantly, if the child does not get high enough scores they will not be accepted to their college of choice.

I admit that at this young age, most children are not mature enough to make such choices on their own. Even if they are interested in a certain field, most children are still unable to assess their own strengths and capabilities as they relate to the real world. As a result, many students simply comply with their parents wishes.

During a school seminar I once conducted, I met a girl whose mother forced her to select the literary course because she believed that scientific studies required too much work. The girl loved science, but her mother discouraged her from following her passion. By the end of the year, the girl was miserable and the mother regretted her decision. Another student’s father wanted her to join the pharmacy college, although the girl wanted to study arts. Many students shared their stories, lamenting that their parents were forcing them to join specific career paths.

I remember my own experience many years ago when I graduated from high school and wanted to join the faculty of engineering to study computer science, because I loved mathematics. My father wanted me to go to the faculty of commerce because he, himself, was a banker. I, however, insisted, and made my own choice.  By the end of my third year of college I knew this course of study was not for me, but unfortunately I couldn’t make a change. I did not know what else to do and no one would allow me to follow a different course. On the other hand, I never regretted because the choice was my own.

Just six years ago I decided to shift my career from software engineering to life coaching. All my colleagues and family were against me. They still consider me foolish to leave a prestigious position for a complete change and an unknown career. I believe in what I am doing, I believe in its power, and what difference it made in my life. Sometimes I wish I had done it earlier.

Choosing a career path that provides fulfillment and satisfaction  to our children and suits their capabilities and strengths is the most important choice in their lives. It is true that making a career shift is possible now, but not all people are courageous enough to take such a risk. In addition, why should they waste their time and energy on an inappropriate path while we can help them avoid it? With support from specialists, we can better understand our children’s strengths and preferred way of learning, and we can allow them to try different activities and fields to discover their real passion. Most importantly, we should not impose our own choices on our children. They must make their own decision, with support and guidance from us as parents.  With our help, they can learn how to make the best choice for themselves.

Do you have any experiences with helping your children to choose a career path? Are assessment tools used in your country to help the students make the right choice? Would you impose a certain field of study on your child just because you believe it suits them even if they do not like it?

This is an original post for World Moms Network by Nihad from Alexandria, Egypt. Nihad blogs at  Aurora Beams Life Coaching.

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Nihad

Nihad is an Egyptian woman, who was born and has lived her whole life in Alexandria, Egypt. She says, “People who visited this city know how charming and beautiful this city is. Although I love every city in Egypt, Alexandria is the one I love the most.” She is a software engineer and has worked in the field for more than twenty years. But recently she quit her job, got a coaching certificate and she is now a self employed life and career coach. She says, “I believe that women in this era face big challenges and they are taking huge responsibilities. That's why I have chosen my niche -- women looking for happiness and satisfaction. I help and support them in making whatever change (career change, life change, behavior change, belief change…) they want to bring more satisfaction and happiness in their lives.” Nihad is a mother of two lovely boys, 15 and 9 years old. She states, “They are the most precious gifts I have ever had. I madly love them, and I consider them the main source of happiness in my life.” Our inspiring mother in Egypt can also be found at Aurora Beams Life Coaching.

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  1. Simona Rinfreschi says

    September 29, 2016 at 4:20 am

    Dear Nihad, I suppose I’m just a particularly lucky mother, because both my children had a very clear idea of what they wanted to do with their lives from a very young age. My son is currently studying Computer Science at Goethe University in Frankfurt (Germany, where he lives with his wife and her family) and my daughter is doing a BA in Visual Communications in Stellenbosch (South Africa, where we live). We attended presentations by different potential employers and potential Universities and Colleges with them both, but we left the final decision to them (after discussing pros and cons for each option, without imposing our own will during the discussions). We always told them that we’d always be there for them, but that it was *their* lives, so they had to choose the direction they wanted and deal with any consequences of that decision. So far they’re both doing very well. I’m a blessed and proud mother. 🙂

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    • Nihad says

      October 3, 2016 at 8:27 am

      Your kids are lucky to have you as their mother.😊
      I believe kids have the right to choose what they love to do and to be respinsible for their choice.
      I think this is the first major choice they make in their lives and if they don’t do it they will never have the sense of responsibility. They will always wait for someone else to choose for them. Thanks for sharing your thoughts 💖💖

      Reply
  2. Ewa says

    September 29, 2016 at 10:40 am

    This is an important topic to talk about. I myself, was forced by my own parents to choose a school I did not want to go. It resulted in emotional and behavioral problems and in 4 years of me hating my school and everything in it. Because of that particular school I was limited to where I could go the University.
    These days my profession is in art field which has nothing in common with what I did in school that my parents choose for me. Btw, I always wanted to go to art school, since I was a teenager, however my parents thought it’s foolish.

    I’ve promised myself to never do that to my children. I’m open to their ideas, and I’ll always encourage them to be who they want to be and do what they want to do.

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    • Nihad says

      October 3, 2016 at 8:33 am

      Great awareness Ewa. Some parents may repeat the same mistake with their children thinking they know better what their children need and can do or out of over protection.
      Thanks for reading the post and sharing your thoughts 💖💖

      Reply
  3. asmaa hamad says

    October 1, 2016 at 7:27 am

    Great topic and I believe that it is never too late to start new way as we like it

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    • Nihad says

      October 6, 2016 at 4:02 pm

      Absolutely Asmaa. It’s never too late to start again 💖💖

      Reply
  4. Marie Kléber says

    October 3, 2016 at 11:12 am

    Interesting post and thought on the subject Nihad.
    For my parents it was important that we, me and my sister, studied. They both stopped school very young and did not want the same future for us.
    But in a way they let us decide what we wanted to do. I studied Law and even though I messed up my first year, I kept going and ended up with a Law Degree.

    I believe parents can give directions and help us make choices / support our choices, even if these ones don’t match theirs for us. But at the end chidlren should be allowed to take the direction they want for their future.
    We are not on earth to please others but really to find our way in this world.
    (easier said than done!)

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    • Nihad says

      October 5, 2016 at 1:27 pm

      I totally agree with you Marie Kleber, parents give directions to help their kids make choices but never imposing on them tgeir choices.
      I love your words ” we are not on earth to please others but really to find our way in this world”
      Thanks for sharing your thoughts 💖💖

      Reply

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